Arthur Ashe, the legendary Wimbledon player was dying of AIDS which he got due to infected blood he received during a heart surgery in 1983. From world over, he received letters from his fans, one of which conveyed: "Why does GOD have to select you for such a bad disease"? To this Arthur Ashe replied: The world over - 5 crore children start playing tennis, 50 lacs learn to play tennis, 5 lacs learn professional tennis, 50,000 come to the circuit, 5000 reach the grand slam, 50 reach Wimbledon, 4 to semi finals, 2 to the finals; when I was holding a cup I never asked GOD "Why me?" And today in pain I should not be asking GOD "Why me?"
I remember one of the hymns we used to sing at our school assembly, "Count your blessings". I think we should hum it again and let the meaning of it sink in. I truly believe there is no way of feeling happy and content until we learn to count our blessings and simply be grateful for them. In case we need evidence of being blessed, we should look at the people less fortunate than ourselves.
When we complain about the food we eat, think of the hungry and the dying.
When we complain about our jobs, think of the unemployed.
When we complain about having to walk so much, think of the paraplegic who are longing to take one step.
When we complain about our kids, think of the parents who lost theirs.
The list is endless. It is sad we need reminders, but in today's fast paced world, it's all about reminders being fed in. We have progressed a lot in many ways, but as a downside, we are less content than our grandparents were. One of the reasons for this is that we don't have the time to even realize how lucky we are; Leave alone stand and stare.. We look for happiness and satisfaction in remote possibilities and places, whereas it waits for us around the corner.
I read a simple but profound line, "just because I am in pain, doesn't mean I have to be one". I sincerely wish, people would adopt this piece of sense, and stop whining. At times, I feel, if only people could hear themselves conversing, they would realize how silly they sound. The number of birthdays that one has celebrated has nothing to do with maturity, that's for sure. I had people coming to see me when I was paralyzed, discussing their supposed health problems which constituted of corns, warts and dandruff. I was bewildered as well as amused!! Another line I often hear (paradoxically from the whining lot) is "Life is how you see it-whether the glass is half full or half empty." I feel the empty bit in my glass makes me realize how full it is. It's the hunger that makes you appreciate good food, it's the cold that makes you appreciate the warm clothes, the darkness of the night that makes you long for the sunlight.
If we could just look around and see the misery in the world, we would realize how fortunate we are. Next time, when you start to complain, think of the blessings you are endowed with. You would probably stop in the middle of the sentence and shrug off your suddenly not-so-important problem. Look at the poor children on the street, who take joy in playing football barefoot. The joy of living life.with whatever it has to offer! Life is similar to the communist theory of the haves and the have-nots. You could be happy to see how lucky you are or you could be sad and crib about your unfulfilled wants. They say you can feed the hunger of the hungry, but not the abyss of the greed. There is no end to our wants, if our list of wants gets fulfilled today, we will have a new list by tomorrow. It's all about counting our blessings. I love this quotation, "The happiest people in the world are not the ones who have the best things in the world, but are the ones who make the best of what life brings their way."
We think we shall be happy when we finish our studies and get a good job, then we postpone our happiness till we get a fantastic promotion, and onwards to getting married and have kids. Then it comes to the kids being settled down. Suddenly it's the dawn of our lives, and in the rat race, we forget to live, in its fullest meaning. Don't let this happen to you. In the field of law, especially litigation, adjournments are a matter of routine. But in life, there are no adjournments, no substitutions either. Life is not a dress rehearsal, it's the final show. And the moment is now. BE HAPPY...NOW!!!